'Relax' or 'Relax Oneself'? | Mastering Grammar

(Last Updated: 15 June 2023)

Part 2

1. The continuous form ('are having') is unacceptable. Have is a non-continuous verb when it means 'to possess' or 'to own':

✅ I have a car.
❌ I am having a car.

✅ Sam has twenty dollars.
❌ Sam is having twenty dollars.

✅ Susan has lots of friends.
❌ Susan is having lots of friends.

✅ Do you have a calculator?
❌ Are you having a calculator?

✅ Anna has a pleasant personality.
❌ Anna is having a pleasant personality.

Have can be continuous only when it expresses an action or an experience:

✅ We are having pizza for lunch.
✅ They are having a meeting now.
✅ I'm having so much fun right now.
✅ Tom was having dinner when I called.
✅ Susan was having nightmares for many weeks after the accident.

2. We can relax our muscles, but we don't 'relax ourselves'—the verb has no object in that case:

✅ Just sit down and try to relax.
❌ Just sit down and try to relax yourself.

✅ After a hard day at work, I just want to relax.
❌ After a hard day at work, I just want to relax myself.

✅ Chris finished his work and then relaxed in the sun.
❌ Chris finished his work and then relaxed himself in the sun.

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